Pre-Funeral Meeting Questionnaire

Pre-Funeral Meeting Questionnaire

(For use when meeting with the family of the deceased)

Basic Information

Deceased’s Full Name: ___________________________________
Nickname(s): ___________________________________
Date of Birth: _______________ Date of Passing: _______________
Age at Passing: _______________
Cause of Death (if the family is comfortable sharing): ___________________________________
Funeral Location: ___________________________________
Date & Time of Funeral: ___________________________________
Burial or Cremation? (Circle one) Burial / Cremation
Graveside Service Needed? Yes / No

Personal Reflections & Stories

Tell me about their childhood and upbringing (Where were they born? Where did they grow up? Any special childhood memories?)
How would you describe them in one word?
What were their hobbies, interests, or favorite pastimes?
Did they have any favorite sayings, quotes, or expressions?
What were they passionate about? (e.g., family, faith, career, a specific cause)
How did they influence others or leave an impact on their family, friends, or community?
What was their greatest accomplishment?
Did they have a career or vocation they were particularly proud of?
What was their personality like? (e.g., kind, funny, strong-willed, adventurous)
What is a funny or memorable moment you recall about them?
When you see their picture, what is the first thing that comes to mind?
Who were their closest friends?
What were their favorite activities to do with family?
Tell me about their married life (if applicable). How did they meet their spouse? Any special love story or memories?
Who are their surviving family members? (spouse, children, grandchildren, siblings, etc.)

Faith & Spirituality

Were they a member of a church or place of worship? If so, which one?
How did they express their faith or beliefs in their daily life?
Did they have a favorite Bible verse or passage?
Were there any Christian songs, hymns, or worship songs that were meaningful to them?
Did they serve in any ministries or outreach efforts?
What would they want their loved ones to remember most about their faith journey?

Funeral & Service Preferences

Would the family like an open casket viewing? Yes / No
Would you like to have a time for family and friends to share memories during the service?
Are there any specific individuals who should speak at the service? (e.g., pastor, family member, friend)
Would you like any specific readings (Scripture, poetry, letters, etc.) included?
Would you like a video slideshow or photo collage? Yes / No
Do you have specific music or songs you’d like included?
Would you like a military tribute (if applicable)? Yes / No
Do you have any special requests for the funeral or graveside service?
The church is willing to host a meal following the service – would you like this?

Basic menu: Ham / Mostaccioli / Mashed Potatoes / Vegetable / Desserts / Bread / Lemonade & Coffee

Suggested Order (Funeral Service)

Suggested Order (Graveside)

Welcome & Opening Words
Scripture Reading — Example: Psalm 23, John 14:1-6, or 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Short Reflection & Words of Comfort — A brief encouragement about hope in Christ and eternal life
Closing Prayer
Dismissal — Opportunity for loved ones to place flowers, say personal goodbyes, and minister to personally speak to and comfort the family.